I have had one of those weeks this week. You know the ones, where you feel nothing goes right. Where you focus on all the bad things that have happened, all the discomfort you feel right now and all the imagined discomfort and stress in the future. Where your life just seems so much worse than everyone elses. Where you continually compare yourself and your life to others.
Yes. One of those weeks.
And to be honest I haven’t kept up with my gratitude journal this week. Which is silly because its in those moments of difficulty and stress that practicing gratitude has the greatest effect. So instead of acknowledging and accepting my feelings of distress and then transferring my thoughts to something more positive- something I could be grateful for- I have led myself into a downwards spiral. So, its time to claw myself out of that hole and to express some gratitude! It’s gonna be hard because I haven’t got my written prompts to remind me of everything Ive had to be grateful for this week- but I know once I start I’ll notice more and more that I never realised was there.
- Letter from a friend One day this week my friend rang me up just out of the blue for a chat in her lunch hour. Unfortunately for her I was in a very melancholy mood and had been sobbing into my lap prior to her phone call about one misfortune or another. She patiently spent her lunch break consoling and comforting me over the phone whilst listening to the cycle of me complaining and apologising. She made me feel better even if it perhaps didn’t seem that way to her. (I probably made her feel a lot worse!) The next day I received a lovely letter in the post on an alice in wonderland note card like the one in the picture below. She had taken the time out of her day not only to listen to me on the phone, but to write a heartfelt letter and post it to me. So in affect she cheered me up two days in a row! Who wouldn’t be grateful for that?
Digger pyjamas I took Joe to mothercare this week to while away half an hour and he chose himself a present. These ultra cool Digger/dump truck pjs! I am so grateful that I have this beautiful ultra cute toddler who loves diggers so much that he bypasses all the toys to choose himself some digger pjs. “DIG! DIG!” he shouts when he wears them. Sometimes I just sit back with a glass of wine and watch all the cuteness that I have created and it feels wonderful!
My mom I know that most people think that there mom is the best mom in the world. But I’m afraid guys that that just isn’t true. You just gotta deal with it. My mom is the best, hands down. She is there whenever I need her, distance is not of consequence – no questions asked. She understands. She knows what’s wrong and what’s worrying me without me having to try and explain it. She’s just amazeballs. She gives and gives so much of herself that it amazes me there’s anything left some days! The only thing about having someone so brilliant as a mom is that you miss her so much.
Now I’m a mom I’m kinda beginning to understand how amazing moms are- all they have to do and put up with! But the best thing about my mom is that she reminds me how great it is and how lucky I am to be in my situation. How lucky I am to be a mom. No matter how hard it is, no matter how rough my day has been I am lucky.
Thanks momma. xx
And if you need any more reasons to be reminded of how lucky you are just read the last blog post of Charlotte Kitley. Click here to see the full post.
Charlotte has blogged on The Huffington Post UK since 2013 and sadly passed away on Tuesday 16 September from bowel cancer. She wrote one final post that she wished to share with all of her readers.
Here’s part of the blog post:
“In my absence, please, please, enjoy life. Take it by both hands, grab it, shake it and believe in every second of it. Adore your children. You have literally no idea how blessed you are to shout at them in the morning to hurry up and clean their teeth. Embrace your loved one and if they cannot embrace you back, find someone who will. Everyone deserves to love and be loved in return. Don’t settle for less. Find a job you enjoy, but don’t become a slave to it. You will not have ‘I wish I’d worked more’ on your headstone. Dance, laugh and eat with your friends. True, honest, strong friendships are an utter blessing and a choice we get to make, rather than have to share a loyalty with because there happens to be link through blood. Choose wisely then treasure them with all the love you can muster. Surround yourself with beautiful things. Life has a lot of grey and sadness – look for that rainbow and frame it. There is beauty in everything, sometimes you just have to look a little harder to see it.”